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·        July 13, 2009:   Last Child in the Woods; Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder New

·        April 21, 2009:  Mutual Respect with Teenagers

·        April 8, 2009:     I Am Not an ATM Machine

·        July 18, 2006:   Toronto Fun Places

 


New  July 13, 2009

Last Child in the Woods; Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder

 

by Richard Louv

 

Algonquin books of Chapel Hill / Thomas Allen & Son, Ltd.

 

Second Printing 2008

 

Paperback, $14.95 U.S. / $19.95 CDN

ISBN - 10:156512605X

ISBN - 13:9781565126053

 

Louv’s thesis is that society today is teaching young people to avoid direct experience with nature. He also contends that such contact with nature is incredibly beneficial for the mental health and physical health of our youth. This is especially the case where such exposure is unstructured, letting the child’s imagination run wild. He then sadly quotes a San Diego fourth grader that he (sadly) prefers indoor play because “that is where all the electrical outlets are.” Louv’s book has become a rallying point for a movement concerned that youngsters today are deprived of contact with nature.

 

Last Child in the Woods refers to work by Edith Cobb who detailed how many great people through history and from diverse cultures invariably related how their inventiveness and creativity came from early exposure to nature. These seem to be rooted in ecstatic memories requiring space, freedom, discovery and exposure to all five senses. This is hard to get from a video game…

 

We are currently dealing with an epidemic of juvenile obesity while concurrently experiencing the biggest increase in organised sports in history. This suggests that organised sports might not be what kids are lacking to keep off extra weight. We are also dealing with an explosion of prescriptions for Ritalin™ and anti-depressants among youth. There is evidence that obesity, attention disorders, and depression can all be remedied through early and frequent exposure to nature. Such exposure is also essential for young people to grow into adults who appreciate nature and strive to protect it. We rarely appreciate what we cannot put a name on while kids who capture frogs, fish, and bugs are likely to know the names of such creatures.

 

Louv describes a young John Muir as a kid who fashioned a homemade gun and ran along the beach shooting seagulls. Yet this boy learned about nature and eventually grew to appreciate it to the point where he may have been the greatest environmentalist of all time. Muir ultimately founded the Sierra Club and is largely credited with saving California’s redwood forests and Yosemite Valley. Today the behaviour young Muir once exhibited is largely discouraged by society. Even environmentalists are probably to blame, leaving little room for youthful exuberance in today’s over-regulated parks. Boy Scouts are also moving aware from hands-on experience with nature, increasingly catering to computer camps rather than learning about fishing.

 

Louv looks at the biographies of many famous people through history and notes that many of them from Claude Monet to Eleanor Roosevelt claimed to be inspired by nature. But we are becoming increasingly disconnected from nature…

 

Traditionally seven types of intelligence have been described: linguistic; logical-mathematical; spatial; bodily kinaesthetic; musical; interpersonal; and intrapersonal. More recently, naturalist intelligence has also been recognised. Charles Darwin, John Muir, and Rachel Carson are suggested as being giants in this field.

 

Louv’s book sounds an alarm, but is not all doom and gloom. Addressing parents, teachers, lawyers, and politicians, he gives many prescriptions for how to reverse the general decline of exposure to nature in today’s young people. These prescriptions range from planting butterfly gardens to creating nature gyms to encouraging kids to play in the dirt. His views certainly challenge many conventional wisdoms, among them about the intrinsic merits of bringing computers into the classroom and some efforts by such groups as People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals.

 

During a recent interview I conducted for an article about fishing with kids, Quebec environmentalist Daniel Green praised the merits of teaching kids to fish “so that they will notice when something goes wrong in the environment.” Similarly I hear staff at Montreal’s Ecomuseum say that kids today know all about tigers and elephants from watching television documentaries, but may have never seen or touched a frog or snake. Louv, Daniel Green, and Ecomuseum staff all seem to be singing the same song.

 

There is a movement afoot to bring author Richard Louv to Montreal, possibly around Earth Day, 2010.

 

JS                                July 10, 2009

 

 

 

 

April 21, 2009

MUTUAL RESPECT WITH TEENAGERS; HAVING DIALOGUES ABOUT FEELINGS AND VALUES

By Michael Schleifer, Leonie Richler, and Lee Londei

 

The full title (above) of MUTUAL RESPECT WITH TEENAGERS sums up very well what this book is about. Written by the grandfather of three youths, this paperback explores many themes of trans-generational communication. The subject matter is topical because youths today are dealing with many issues from drugs, to sexuality, to gambling, to anorexia, etc and it is not always clear how to address these concerns with them. While these issues are not particularly new, many parents today might be at a loss in knowing how to discuss them. The intended audience is composed of parents of today’s adolescents, as well as teachers, psychologists, and others who work with teenagers and/or their parents. The concepts covered tend to be basic and introductory.

 

The book begins with basic issues of morality, such as when we should tell the truth and when “white lies” might be appropriate.  When today’s teenagers ask their mom or dad to describe her or his own experience with drugs, what is the best way to respond? How honest should the adult be? Schleifer gives good, common-sense advice here while bringing forth concepts that many parents probably understood without knowing the term for it (i.e. asymmetrical respect). The latter term describes how you can respect your adolescent children while still treating them differently than you would your adult friends.

 

In other instances, Schleifer goes against conventional wisdom, suggesting that children should not be forced to kiss an aunt on the cheek after she has just brought them a present. The consequences of such an enforced kiss may lead adolescents to later believe that physical affection is required as a sign of gratitude in situations of possible sexual innuendo. The book gives other age-appropriate and gender-appropriate advice for raising teenagers, most particularly in a North American context.

 

Schleifer, who is also the author of TALKING ABOUT FEELINGS AND VALUES WITH CHILDREN, has solid academic credentials to write such books; holding Ph.D.s in both philosophy and psychology. Schleifer knows the territory and makes appropriate references to other pertinent titles within the pages of his book, and writes in a way that is easy to read. But there could be more practical examples of how to communicate with teenagers, especially in difficult or ambiguous situations.

 

The book’s extensive index allows for skimming and facilitates the finding of specific concepts. I recommend this book.

 

 

ISBN 10: 1550593471 / 1-55059-347-1

ISBN 13: 9781550593471

Publisher: Detselig Enterprises, Limited

Publication Date: 2007

120 pages

Suggested price $28.95

 

-           DISCLAIMER:  John does know Michael Schleifer, a fellow author from Montreal.

 

 

 

April 8, 2009

I Am Not an ATM Machine; How Parents Can Regain Control of Their Lives While Still Loving Their Children

by Phil Clavel

 

Paperback: 160 pages Publisher: Vehicule Press; 1 edition (Sep 20 2006) ISBN-10: 1550652192 Price: $15.95

 

 

Some of you will recognize Clavel’s name as a Montrealer and the author of Dad Alone: How to Rebuild Your Life and Remain an Involved Father After Divorce. In I Am Not an ATM Machine, Clavel writes about how to instil in our children a real sense of financial responsibility. He also speaks of helping parents regain control of their own lives instead of giving constant handouts to their children and acting like an automatic teller machine (ATM).

 

Much of Clavel’s book is based on anecdotes, like the one where a mother always went to the ATM every time she needed cash, making her kids think that money grew there like magic. They did not associate the money that came from the ATM with any work or sacrifice and could only imagine new ways to spend it. This is a terrible and irresponsible attitude about money and yet that is how many young people think.

 

The subject is timely because youths are increasingly the target of marketing campaigns and they are being convinced that they “need” many things, from fancy running shoes to cell phones that are really only luxuries. Clavel gives common sense prescriptions for how do deal with demands for things like cell phones and iPods. Clavel writes about O.P.M., or “other people’s money” and how using it can be addictive, almost like opium with which it shares a phonetic resemblance. Many young people are also lingering around the home, often until their 30s, before moving out on their own and Clavel gives some prescriptions here, too. Clavel’s book teaches parents how to love their children and still be able to say “no” to them. It also advocates leading by example.

 

The book could be better written, but the message still comes shining through. I found that reading Clavel’s book increased my awareness of this important issue and strengthened my resolve to being able to do the right thing for my own kids. I highly recommend Clavel’s I Am Not an ATM Machine.

 

 

July 18, 2006

For those looking for extensive information about family-friendly activities around Toronto, John recommends TORONTO FUN PLACES by Nathalie Prézeau. www.torontofunplaces.com

 

 


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